The Misconception of Trust

Understanding the truth behind what it means to trust

It was interesting how this all come up. I had a long day of school, work, and just finished supper. I needed to relax, so decided to chill with my college mates David, Daniel, and Yeabsira. We started off talking about random stuff, and then got talking about fears, expectations, and trust.

Once we all shared our views, a thought came to mind. I thought "how can I help people understand the truth behind what it means to trust?"

My college mates left to go get some food, and I just sat there thinking. Thinking about what was just discussed and then writing down what you are reading, and about to read now.

So here it goes.

I have come to this obvious conclusion, everyone has trust issues and experiences of trust being broken. It doesn’t help that life requires you and I to trust in so many people. We like to think people have to earn our trust before we give trust.

That is the misconception of trust. Trust is both earned and given, but first it is given. Someone cannot earn your trust without you trusting them first. It all comes down to this one thing...Expectations

The reason why you and I have so much trouble trusting people is our expectations get in they way.

When people have to earn your trust, they have to live up to your expectations and when people try to live up to your expectations, they fail, and fail again. Broken trust is the result of...broken, unmet expectations. Expectations that you never even communicated.

Uncommunicated expectations are never met. You don't want to live your life without trusting anyone because of unmet expectations.

Now the challenge becomes:

• Deciding to always giving trust first.

• Check if your expectations are umeetable.

• Communicate meetable expectations.